Here is a marriage secret to help you in these troubled times, and they will get worse. Women are very much more about security and safety. In order to change and strengthen or wives we need to pray. A man that honestly approaches God and request he (God) change His daughter he will see it happen. The true God is the only power that really changes people. We build so much stress in our own lives and relations trying to change them. Use the terms my wife, your daughter and the woman you gave me.